I saw him on the bench as I pulled into the carport, a bluejay, on his back, pencil-lead feet curled around a ghost perch.
I took my dinner inside to eat before it got cold and to give the bluejay a chance to rouse if it was only a stunning.
It was not.
Satiated, I went to the shed, got the shovel, then thought twice, and got two shovels.
With one flat at the bluejay's edge, the other tipped him onto the metal -- I feel it was a him -- bluejays so often seem more they/them.
I suppose I could have thrown him in the woods. But I didn't. I took him to the spot where I dump yard trash -- not trash trash, yard trash -- sticks and weeds and the dried husks of hanging baskets I forgot to water.
I dug a grave, a shallow grave, no more than six inches. I was tired, and my full belly didn't care for so much activity. But, still, I dug a grave.
I put the body of the bluejay in the hole and stood for a moment. Should I say something? I didn't know what. I just looked at him, saw him, stayed with him in that moment.
It took just two heaping shovels of dirt to secure him in his final rest, and I thought, I wonder if he knows that every time I take yard trash to this spot, I will think of him. He will be remembered. HIs grave will be visited. He will be mourned.
I took my shovels back to the shed and only then did I think of my father, placed into a cremation oven before I could see his face one last time, buried in a jar that sits on my stepmother's mantel, I suppose, or was he scattered in the mountains? No one ever told me.
I have no grave to visit, no headstone to decorate, no symbolic point where his memory lives on demand.
His voice fades a little every day. His smell, I can almost . . . not quite. His laugh, the music of his laugh, dying away. And I don't know where to go to bring any of it back even for a moment.