Every girl wants to feel like
a princess on her wedding
day.  That’s what the woman
said on the true crime show
already destined to end with
an incarcerated ex-husband. 

How many times have I 
heard that? Count. Less. And
it’s not even true. Let’s get
this out of the way first:
“girls” aren’t supposed to 
get married.  Women get
married.  

But more important: some
women probably want to feel like a
badass at their wedding. Some
likely want to feel statuesque
or Amazonian.  Pretty? Yes. But
“pretty” as in powerhouse, audacious,
fierce. Unapologetically shield-maiden
fuckaroundandfindoutery pretty. 

Some women want to be 
handsome. Some want to be
quirky and fun. Some want to be
loving and easy and equal, just like
the marriage they'll insist upon. 

Some women don’t want to be 
anything on the wedding day they 
opt to never happen. They’re happy
being enough all on their own.  

Perhaps, and I’m just spit-ballin’
here, but, perhaps if little girls were
given choices other than princess,
fewer women would find themselves
with an incarcerated ex-husband.