Ode to the Community Pool

In the water, I am
12 again. Or maybe 25
or 40, but younger.
Definitely younger.

I float in weightlessness,
my face just above the
surface. My head tilts
to the right, and the water
is at my eye, lapping at
the lashes, rising and
falling against my cheek,
the recognition of an old
friend.

I tilt my head back until
only the blowhole of my
mouth feels the breeze. I take
a breath and sink, turn,
glide, rest my tummy on the
bottom, twirl again with rudder
arms and duck paddle feet,
look up at filtered sun,
remembering the summers
of childhood, diving
for pennies, rocking
the inner tube,
handstands.

Water remembers. Water feels
what I have known, where I have
been. It is an intimate friend,
welcoming me back, holding
me up, carrying so much of
the weight of me.

The Bonds of Matrimony

Every girl wants to feel like
a princess on her wedding
day. That’s what the woman
said on the true crime show
already destined to end with
an incarcerated ex-husband.

How many times have I
heard that? Count. Less. And
it’s not even true. Let’s get
this out of the way first:
“girls” aren’t supposed to
get married. Women get
married.

But more important: some
women probably want to feel like a
badass at their wedding. Some
likely want to feel statuesque
or Amazonian. Pretty? Yes. But
“pretty” as in powerhouse, audacious,
fierce. Unapologetically shield-maiden
fuckaroundandfindoutery pretty.

Some women want to be
handsome. Some want to be
quirky and fun. Some want to be
loving and easy and equal, just like
the marriage they'll insist upon.

Some women don’t want to be
anything on the wedding day they
opt to never happen. They’re happy
being enough all on their own.

Perhaps, and I’m just spit-ballin’
here, but, perhaps if little girls were
given choices other than princess,
fewer women would find themselves
with an incarcerated ex-husband.